Comments on: stop telling me to be more confident

By: Eat the Damn Cake » why aren’t we allowed to think we’re pretty?

Tue, 19 Feb 2013 14:13:41 +0000

[...] are getting caught in a sticky trap of mixed messages: we are supposed to be modest, even as we’re supposed to be confident. But it shouldn’t have to be immodest or arrogant just to acknowledge when we’re good [...]

By: Eat the Damn Cake » the ugly woman detective

Eat the Damn Cake » the ugly woman detective — Thu, 19 Jul 2012 13:05:38 +0000

[...] Just be confident and move ahead. Never mind that people feel comfortable saying things about how Lena Dunham is too fat for television and that Hillary Clinton has cankles. Never mind that the goal of women-geared industry seems to be to help you lose weight as quickly as possible so that you can finally have a shot at a decent life. [...]

By: Eat the Damn Cake » it’s impossible to be an antiquated woman

Eat the Damn Cake » it’s impossible to be an antiquated woman — Wed, 07 Dec 2011 21:56:29 +0000

[...] terrible! Why am I so bad at being a modern woman? Is there something wrong with me for not being more confident? Since then, I’ve been thinking about what she said. It really confuses me. Which makes me [...]

By: GirlInDreamland

GirlInDreamland — Mon, 07 Nov 2011 02:35:27 +0000

oh my gosh this was amazing to read and made me laugh and cry and I understand. I love you whoever you are!

By: Eat the Damn Cake » no one is too smart to worry about beauty

Eat the Damn Cake » no one is too smart to worry about beauty — Tue, 25 Oct 2011 15:23:55 +0000

[...] It’s embarrassing to be the girl who admits to feeling insecure about something that really smart girls shouldn’t be thinking about. If I was smarter, I would have already figured out that this stuff doesn’t really matter. That’s the message. It’s a lot like the message about confidence. [...]

By: Lovely Links: 10/14/11

Lovely Links: 10/14/11 — Sat, 15 Oct 2011 12:40:43 +0000

[...] “The message is: you are suddenly beautiful when you get confident, because inner beauty is the only beauty that matters. Or because your inner beauty magically becomes outer beauty. So just do that. I think I’d rather feel good than look good, but I’m not sure that feeling good really changes t….” [...]

By: Tempest

Tempest — Thu, 13 Oct 2011 16:51:40 +0000

timely post…for the first time in my life, I can say to myself “I am beautiful” and it has nothing to do with how I look, but how I FEEL from the inside out. Undergoing a major life change, and the release of all of that negativity is an amazing feeling. And it has NOTHING to do with anyone else’s expectations of me…even my own. I just am.

By: MarieElizabeth

MarieElizabeth — Thu, 13 Oct 2011 03:34:32 +0000

The beautiful part is that with experiences in life, some of the understanding and confidence becomes who you are, without even trying. It’s not about being “on” or being something others want you to be, it’s understanding the you already rock and even on bad days, that kind of beauty doesn’t fade.

By: Sooz

Sooz — Wed, 12 Oct 2011 23:52:49 +0000

Its a lot of pressure to always be “on” and feel fabulous and never have any insecurities. ALOT OF PRESSURE!!!!! Stop it, people. Feel how you feel. Do the best you can in any given moment and let the rest go!!!!!! Love you Kate!

By: Emily

Emily — Wed, 12 Oct 2011 20:36:22 +0000

Wow, this was incredible! I love how you put into words the things I feel but don’t know quite how to express.