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By: Link Love (15/01/2013) « Becky's Kaleidoscope

Link Love (15/01/2013) « Becky's Kaleidoscope — Tue, 15 Jan 2013 17:47:59 +0000

[...] to not care very much, and some of us continue to be chased by the howling, hungry beauty demons into our adulthood and even until we die.” You Are Pretty Enough to Find Love – Eat the Damn [...]

By: Eat the Damn Cake » you are pretty enough to find love

Eat the Damn Cake » you are pretty enough to find love — Wed, 26 Dec 2012 15:29:31 +0000

[...] From the time we’re little girls, we’re taught that if we were prettier everything in our lives would be better. We would have the things that we want. Girls become preoccupied with their appearances in an effort to control and improve their lives, and are too often driven to despair when they don’t see themselves as fitting into restrictive and seemingly arbitrary beauty standards. And this is not some dramatic interpretation—it’s just life. Some of us escape unscathed, and some of us are blissfully oblivious enough, and some of us recover from middle school and go on to not care very much, and some of us continue to be chased by the howling, hungry beauty demons into our adulthood and even until we die. [...]

By: Eat the Damn Cake » my skinny friend and the women who judge her

Eat the Damn Cake » my skinny friend and the women who judge her — Mon, 27 Aug 2012 04:11:50 +0000

[...] And honestly, I don’t think about all of that very much these days, because it’s been years since I was really skinny. It’s been years since someone said those words. “You’re so skinny!” with the squeaky exclamation point. And for the most part, I can’t say that I miss it. I’ve had to figure out that I might be beautiful anyway. I’ve had to figure out that I might not be, and that might be OK, too. [...]

By: Eat the Damn Cake » who gets to be sexy? is it me?

Eat the Damn Cake » who gets to be sexy? is it me? — Tue, 13 Mar 2012 17:01:31 +0000

[...] I do know that I don’t want to have to fight and fight to claw my way backwards to a thinner, younger sexy. And maybe I want to try to think sexy is about more than how things look. Maybe sexy is a whole [...]

By: Kate Fridkis: Why I Write About Body Image | 1230 KQUE – Talk Radio that has Houston …. Talking!

Thu, 01 Mar 2012 14:18:27 +0000

[...] write about body image because women are always complimenting each other by saying, “You look like you lost weight!” and because it’s so hard to think that what you are is already [...]

By: Eat the Damn Cake » the first white hair and the velociraptor

Eat the Damn Cake » the first white hair and the velociraptor — Mon, 27 Feb 2012 21:05:39 +0000

[...] way! I thought she was young!” “No, dude, she’s like twenty-six.” “Shit…well, she looks pretty young for her age. She’s still [...]

By: Elyse

Elyse — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 23:19:03 +0000

I found your blog recently and absolutely love it. I am currently in a rabbit-hole of old posts and my job is suffering for it…thank you.
I identify so much with this post, and with so many of the things said in the comments. I realize it isn’t the point, but boy do I find big noses on women just absolutely gorgeous (not a creeper compliment, I am a straight lady). I’m sure there are qualities I have that I don’t like, and other people find stunning, and of course it has no impact on my self image. That said – you are stunning.
Anyway, thank you for the honest and touching and totally relatable posts you do.

By: Sooz

Sooz — Mon, 31 Oct 2011 11:44:11 +0000

@Kate THANKS!!!!!!! I will!!!!!

By: meredith

meredith — Mon, 31 Oct 2011 03:58:39 +0000

thanks for posting this! i loved how you interpreted it. your point of view on this crazy world is always unique and thought-provoking and comforting. thank you for taking the time and energy to share your thoughts. you’re changing the way i think and i am so grateful for that. reading your thoughts about aging made me realize that i want to just own and accept every age and stage i reach. it’s way better energy spent loving and savoring every part of life than criticizing myself and picking apart my flaws.

and i’m sorry and sad to hear about your dog. i begged for a dog my whole childhood and my parents ironically finally got a dog when i moved out to go to college. even though i only see her on my brief visits home, she’s such a wonderful sweet companion. my friends are fostering puppies and i went and helped take care of them tonight and oh, i think my heart just expanded with love. i hope you can hold the memories and snuggles and silly stories close to your heart for comfort.

deanna, i have no proper words for your loss. i know that my friends are a part of my soul and i would feel like i lost a bit of myself in losing a friend. i hope you are healing and this stranger(stranger-friend?) is so sorry.

every fiber in my body wants to be that woman who walks down the street, with her inner worth glowing out of her luminous soul. i’m going to fight hard for that.

By: Kate

Kate — Sun, 30 Oct 2011 18:55:47 +0000

Oh, Sooz, that is such a sweet comment. I wish I could make your anxiety disorder disappear. But at least I want to confirm your suspicions about everyone else– we definitely don’t mind. And the way you describe yourself honestly sounds cute. I want you to own it.