Comments on: can’t clean up good

By: beaujolais

beaujolais — Mon, 24 Sep 2012 03:45:49 +0000

Honestly? I don’t think the ‘transformation’ into beauty really happens. At weddings, the bride always looks herself, and I think her beauty is heightened because of her happiness of the moment.

The transformation may occur because the transformer feels it, not because she actually looks different–the whole ‘feeling confident’ thing. But many things can make us feel that way, things we’re good at (like, for instance, dance).

Everyone looks so distinctly themselves that a surface physical addition doesn’t really change them.

By: Brooke

Brooke — Fri, 14 Sep 2012 19:00:46 +0000

Also… Kristine you have such delicious style! Seeing people’s untamed hair is such a treat, I love the unruliness of your curls.

Hannah, I’m so glad you shared your dance reflections. I love your idea about different activities having transformative effects, and your goddess gang was an ideal way of illustrating that!

By: Brooke

Brooke — Fri, 14 Sep 2012 18:50:39 +0000

Kimmy Sue, your hoochie top + overalls + boa recommendation makes me want more style advice from you!

By: Eat the Damn Cake » the extreme importance of letting yourself be occasionally ugly

Mon, 03 Sep 2012 16:53:20 +0000

[...] The main problem with beauty for girls is that it gets conflated with just about every other good thing. Even the nerdy smart girls we gratefully identify with in our favorite books get played by typically lovely actresses with shiny hair, slender limbs, and delicate, even features. It’s OK to be endearingly dorky, as long as you can transform into an angelic vision of ideal femininity the moment you put on a prom dress! [...]

By: Penny

Penny — Thu, 02 Aug 2012 01:35:22 +0000

I bet with your no boobs you could pull off one of those low cut halter dresses, as they look better without cleavage. I have too much boob and look trampy in low cut things.

By: Eat the Damn Cake » little victories: schlumpy phase

Eat the Damn Cake » little victories: schlumpy phase — Thu, 29 Dec 2011 05:58:55 +0000

[...] for my arms to look fatter? I look terrible in EVERYTHING.” I will definitely say, “I can’t dress up! I am one of those women who doesn’t look good in nice things!” I hope I won’t say these things out [...]

By: Joy Daniels (@AuthorJDaniels)

Joy Daniels (@AuthorJDaniels) — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 22:40:24 +0000

I love this post because girl, you are talking to me. I don’t clean up magically either. I can do professional quite well: suit, skirt etc but sexy? I have the no boob problem too, which doesn’t help since most dresses need to be filled out.

Funny thing is I look ok from the neck down – not hot, not spectacular but nice. It’s my face that doesn’t fit (OK I have wide shoulders too – no they’re athletic). But imy face can’t hide the fact that these clothes just aren’t me. It’s like the wink is just there, saying “really? wouldn’t you rather be wearing yoga pants or even a flowy skirt instead of THIS?”

Yeah, I would.

By: steph

steph — Thu, 24 Nov 2011 04:33:15 +0000

but if she takes off the glasses she can’t see the world around her. I’d rather keep my eyes open and tell myself that I’m fabulous even if others can’t see it. It’s their loss…and I wear red underwear. It’s amazing how sexy you can feel in your baggy sweatshirt when you have on great underwear. Thanks for this post!

By: Kristine

Kristine — Mon, 21 Nov 2011 02:45:16 +0000

briana-i have naturally curly hair, but it will kind of just do whatever i want it to do. if i put straightening stuff in it (smooth infusion line from aveda) and twirl it with my fingers it will be wavy instead. i have bangs but i push them up and blend them with my hair if i am leaving my hair natural, if i make it wavier i just leave them as bangs. not everyone’s hair will do this, if yours won’t you can use a waving iron

By: Hannah

Hannah — Fri, 18 Nov 2011 18:01:43 +0000

You know, I didn’t feel transformed hardly ever until I started doing tribal belly dance. The costumes are pretty involved, but when I look at myself in pictures later I kind of don’t recognize myself. I look like a goddess, hanging out with all these other goddesses. How weird is it to even write that?

Maybe you just haven’t found the thing that will transform you (physically) yet. And you know, just because you can’t see transformation doesn’t mean it’s not happening.