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By: Eat the Damn Cake » how I want my daughter to look

Eat the Damn Cake » how I want my daughter to look — Fri, 07 Jun 2013 12:20:43 +0000

[...] intrepid). I remember being a little girl and looking in the mirror and loving my own face. I remember thinking that I was beautiful just for existing. And I know, deep down, under the nervousness I have about my daughter, that she will be beautiful [...]

By: My thoughts on Body Image issue : Nutrizonia

My thoughts on Body Image issue : Nutrizonia — Sun, 26 May 2013 14:27:47 +0000

[...] need a body image? I was inspired to write about body image, since the moment I read an article Gorgeous little girlby Kate Fridkis on her blog. She writes about body image, beauty, and self-esteem. I was [...]

By: Eat the Damn Cake » the girl I wanted to be

Eat the Damn Cake » the girl I wanted to be — Thu, 17 Jan 2013 20:48:49 +0000

[...] parents were very supportive. They thought I was smart and pretty and capable. And that is so important, like the concrete they po… But the shape of the building, the furniture inside—I think that comes from other girls. That’s [...]

By: Eat the Damn Cake » it’s fair to be disappointed by how you look

Eat the Damn Cake » it’s fair to be disappointed by how you look — Fri, 30 Nov 2012 17:44:22 +0000

[...] is, my face has let me down. I thought it would turn out prettier, with better bone structure. As a kid, I thought that because I was good at stuff, I was pretty too, or at least should be. Good and pretty should go [...]

By: Patrcia

Patrcia — Sun, 09 Sep 2012 19:17:22 +0000

I remember always feeling a little less attractive then the rest of the girls that I was surrounded by, never heard relatives tell me that I was pretty actually I usually heard the opposite. It was not until I was a teenager that I felt a little more attractive due to the fact that I met new people. I think it is important for parents to tell their children that they are beautiful inside and out. So that the child can grow with self confidence but never become conceded. Sometimes you may not be the prettiest on the outside but you may be a beautiful person on the inside which can make you look gorgeous. So looks are only skin deep it is the personality that comes with those looks that make people look twice and come back for more.

By: Melinda

Melinda — Wed, 13 Jun 2012 22:57:01 +0000

I’m with Deanna and Emily on this one. No one ever told me I was pretty, either.

I grew up seeing my cousin, who was a year older, receive all these compliments about how beautiful/brilliant/etc. she was while I was ignored and overlooked unless people wanted to laugh at me or tell me how ugly and bad I was.

I grew up in an emotionally abusive environment as well.

Even now at 30, I wish somebody would sincerely tell me that I’m beautiful. My husband says it now but he was kind of insensitive when we were dating and he made some offhand comments back in the day that contributed to my insecurities.

I’m still learning how to enjoy my femininity because it was stolen from me. I’ve also encountered discrimination because when you’re a mixed-race woman and most of the people around you look nothing like you, they will make you feel shitty about yourself.

I have to deal with comments about my light skin, my kinky/curly hair, my big butt, my small boobs, my weight…all of the things that make me who I am.

My stepfather often makes comments that remind me of how ugly and unfeminine he perceives me to be. So I don’t really know what it is like to feel pretty.

I’ve been experimenting with different things lately, like jewelry (turquoise looks wonderful with my dark hair and light skin).

Inside me there is a little girl who wants to twirl in a full skirt.

By: Anna

Anna — Wed, 18 Apr 2012 11:44:56 +0000

Loved this post. You have no idea how much I needed that.

I thought I was beautiful because of my muscles, my big brown eyes and my kindness toward others. I was proud of my bike riding abilities. I remember being proud of my muscular thighs (from bike riding) even when I was a fat kid.

I think as I’ve gotten older, the concept of beauty rests more on the physical appearance of a person. Like you, I have mathematical accuracy in determining exactly what would need to be changed in order to make someone beautiful. That’s mostly in relation to myself. I still believe in being a beautiful person, but that’s not when i think of when i consider beauty. I needed this to remember to be proud of my empathy, my muscles, my wackiness and my big brown eyes. I need to tap into little me again.

Thank you!

By: Me

Me — Tue, 17 Apr 2012 03:05:00 +0000

Hi. This article is exactly how I feel about myself. I still feel like this sometimes. I’m young at heart. Of course, now life is a lot harder and I have many other worries, and I have changed. When I was little I always made very smart decisions. I also have brown hair, hazel eyes, I’m Jewish, I liked dinosaurs and boy like things, my parents always told me I was beautiful, adventure and beauty were tied, still are, and it’s quite remarkable to read your story and feel that I completely know what you are talking about. thanks for sharing. Lots of love.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Fri, 09 Mar 2012 10:23:57 +0000

I thought I was beautiful because I was nice to people and my friends all liked me I still think that.

And because of my big brown eyes I still think that as well.

By: Mandy

Mandy — Thu, 08 Mar 2012 17:28:59 +0000

Kate;
I LOVE this post! You are lovely and amazing inside and out!.And, according to your eye color chart, I also have forest magic.
And it’s interesting to me that our birthdays are almost exactly 20 years apart–I’ll be 46 in a couple of weeks.
So, happy birthday, sweetie!