Comments on: you big softy

By: Eat the Damn Cake » the epic tale of how I stopped using shampoo

Eat the Damn Cake » the epic tale of how I stopped using shampoo — Mon, 06 May 2013 13:20:06 +0000

[...] from my lips as I knelt there, naked, on the floor of the shower, water streaming down my face, my arms raised in sinewy defiance (in this image, my arms have to be sinewy-it’s [...]

By: The silencing effect | the shirt on my back

The silencing effect | the shirt on my back — Mon, 22 Apr 2013 10:33:47 +0000

[...] and in the columns upon columns of women writing about their past struggles with body image and how they finally conquered them (notice that they are generally written after the woman in question has achieved a state of body [...]

By: Eat the Damn Cake » thin women need to be part of the body image conversation

Mon, 25 Feb 2013 14:56:51 +0000

[...] in these contexts, caught off-guard and confused and upset about offending someone. But I have also struggled with my weight, harassed myself over it. I, like so many girls and women, have quietly believed in my own [...]

By: Eat the Damn Cake » the generic things that make us all exquisitely sexy

Eat the Damn Cake » the generic things that make us all exquisitely sexy — Mon, 19 Nov 2012 16:54:08 +0000

[...] I’ve written about this before, but it’s funny how when Bear compliments me, often the things he points out are really generic. [...]

By: Eat the Damn Cake » losing weight for other women

Eat the Damn Cake » losing weight for other women — Thu, 11 Oct 2012 15:35:57 +0000

[...] Bear especially loves my belly, and how it is rounder than it used to be, because he thinks it makes me look fertile and sexy and nice. I especially remember how my belly used to be flat and how I felt accomplished about that, as though I had emerged victorious from a pile of frantically dieting women, the natural, effortless winner. [...]

By: Eat the Damn Cake » my skinny friend and the women who judge her

Eat the Damn Cake » my skinny friend and the women who judge her — Mon, 27 Aug 2012 04:08:15 +0000

[...] skinny!” with the squeaky exclamation point. And for the most part, I can’t say that I miss it. I’ve had to figure out that I might be beautiful anyway. I’ve had to figure out that I might not be, and that might be OK, [...]

By: Jenn

Jenn — Wed, 06 Jun 2012 14:16:27 +0000

Do you know anything about personality typing? Like Myers-Briggs or Kiersey? If not, I bet you’d really enjoy learning about it. You remind me so much of my sister-in-law. She’s an “NF,” and I think you totally are, too.

By: morgaine

morgaine — Wed, 30 May 2012 03:06:30 +0000

I am one of those hard-minded girls. I have always been strict, incisive, and sometimes harsh. But I have a very soft body, and I love the contrast. I feel like masculinity and femininity in balance.

By: Celynne

Celynne — Tue, 29 May 2012 18:15:09 +0000

A friend of mine complimented me on my hip to waist ration while were out dancing once, probably one of the more amusing but charming comments I’ve gotten while tipsy and dancing haha. I’m glad you can enjoy being soft, I love my softness too.

By: Courtney Ann

Courtney Ann — Mon, 28 May 2012 21:46:13 +0000

I am learning to celebrate my softness because it is an outward representation of how I have survived this world; it is the physical manifestation of my psychological defenses and my wonderful, wise professor has said time and time again that we should respect the defenses.

Now I want to begin to live in a way where I stop apologizing to the world for my softness. That is the daunting place I find myself.

Thanks for your words!