Comments on: my skinny friend and the women who judge her http://www.eatthedamncake.com/2012/08/26/my-skinny-friend-and-the-women-who-judge-her/ beauty. body image. womanhood. dessert. Wed, 19 Jun 2013 21:10:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: A Weighty Issue | Natterings From Nepal http://www.eatthedamncake.com/2012/08/26/my-skinny-friend-and-the-women-who-judge-her/comment-page-2/#comment-102242 A Weighty Issue | Natterings From Nepal Tue, 04 Jun 2013 13:03:07 +0000 http://www.eatthedamncake.com/?p=5732#comment-102242 [...] My incessant Googling led me to a blog by Kate called Eat The Damn Cake http://www.eatthedamncake.com/2012/08/26/my-skinny-friend-and-the-women-who-judge-her/ [...]

]]> By: ellie http://www.eatthedamncake.com/2012/08/26/my-skinny-friend-and-the-women-who-judge-her/comment-page-2/#comment-92613 ellie Tue, 02 Apr 2013 09:20:59 +0000 http://www.eatthedamncake.com/?p=5732#comment-92613 A lot of what I want to say has already been said, which was really nice to see, that other people get it. I was a preemie, 1lb 4oz, and because of pre-birth issues my digestion is slow, and I don’t get hungry often. (Both of which become really complicated issues to deal with). I’m only 18 years old, 4’11 and 78lbs.(Although I’ve lost weight (by accident), I’m better-looking and healthier when staying at 84 or so). I’ve always been skinny and always will be, and it’s so incredibly annoying and frustrating that people think they can point out my size to me. It’s been happening my whole life, no matter what I do or say. With some friends I say something right away about how I alreay know I’m skinny, sometimes sarcastic, but with adults I have to just smile and nod. Even my boss makes regular comments about it, and it’s so stupid, because in our society it’s common knowledge that it would be rude to go up to someone who is overweight and point it out, but people still do it to me because skinny is “good”. It seems to only get more frustrating as I get older. Right now I’m pretty uncomfortable with how I look, because I’m skinnier than my normal skinny and I think it just looks gross on me. I do my best to eat 3 meals a day. But it makes me self-concious and people are rude about it. But, it made me happy to see others with the same things going on and the same opinons on it.

]]> By: Kate http://www.eatthedamncake.com/2012/08/26/my-skinny-friend-and-the-women-who-judge-her/comment-page-1/#comment-86563 Kate Mon, 25 Feb 2013 15:59:06 +0000 http://www.eatthedamncake.com/?p=5732#comment-86563 Ugh. This is such a complicated issue – like you said, thin people can be trying to gain weight, and “overweight” people can be perfectly happy and healthy. Just like one diet isn’t right for everyone, neither is one size. Thank you for all you do to keep this conversation at the forefront – my hope is that the more people understand it’s not black and white, the less the judgmental snark will occur. That said – I believe the judgement comes from our own insecurity anyway.

]]> By: Eat the Damn Cake » thin women need to be part of the body image conversation http://www.eatthedamncake.com/2012/08/26/my-skinny-friend-and-the-women-who-judge-her/comment-page-1/#comment-86535 Eat the Damn Cake » thin women need to be part of the body image conversation Mon, 25 Feb 2013 14:02:30 +0000 http://www.eatthedamncake.com/?p=5732#comment-86535 [...] I’ve embarrassed myself before by assuming that a friend who was talking a lot about her diet …, when it turned out that she was trying really hard to gain some. This may not be the rule, but the exceptions to it are important. [...]

]]> By: Goodgirl22 http://www.eatthedamncake.com/2012/08/26/my-skinny-friend-and-the-women-who-judge-her/comment-page-1/#comment-84555 Goodgirl22 Sat, 16 Feb 2013 09:18:44 +0000 http://www.eatthedamncake.com/?p=5732#comment-84555 I’d just like to say that this is really inspirational. I’m anorexic and trying hard to get better. I read about 50 stories just like this about acceptance, eating disorders and skinniness, in the hope that one of them will trigger something in my mind and make me realise that I’m beautiful either way. This is the first thing that hasn’t gone in through one ear and out the other.
Thank you xox

]]> By: Pam http://www.eatthedamncake.com/2012/08/26/my-skinny-friend-and-the-women-who-judge-her/comment-page-1/#comment-72394 Pam Wed, 21 Nov 2012 04:51:35 +0000 http://www.eatthedamncake.com/?p=5732#comment-72394 Commenting months late after this was reposted on an Australian website.
Thanks for this post. I am the freakishly skinny one – even in a family where both sides of my family are naturally thin, I’m the thinnest. And I’ve had all the comments. Including being asked ‘do you eat?’ (No, I’m a breatharian – what do you think, twit?). Or being told ‘one day you’ll hit puberty’ (um, I’m almost 30). But the one that hurt most was a friend. She was complaining about how she was so fat (in reality, she was only nearish the high end of ‘healthy’ BMI) and I simply said that she wasn’t. Her response was to tell me I wasn’t allowed an opinion because I’m skinny. Fortunately she realised how completely stupid and insulting that sounded and apologised (she still wouldn’t believe she wasn’t fat) and she never made any of those comments again.
Also, there are all sorts of reasons people are the size they are. I have Coeliac Disease, which is definitely part of why I’m so thin because it does limit what I can eat. But I really don’t think people would be jealous of what it’s like if I accidentally eat gluten – it feels like someone’s ripping out my intestines and intermittently stabbing my gut too. So while people might look at me and wish that like me they never put on weight, I look at them and wish I COULD eat that damn cake!

]]> By: Luiza http://www.eatthedamncake.com/2012/08/26/my-skinny-friend-and-the-women-who-judge-her/comment-page-1/#comment-71994 Luiza Fri, 16 Nov 2012 06:25:32 +0000 http://www.eatthedamncake.com/?p=5732#comment-71994 Here are some funny comebacks if someone calls you skinny:

http://www.ishouldhavesaid.net/2012/03/youre-so-skinny-more-comebacks/

]]> By: Emelia http://www.eatthedamncake.com/2012/08/26/my-skinny-friend-and-the-women-who-judge-her/comment-page-1/#comment-71448 Emelia Sat, 10 Nov 2012 13:04:50 +0000 http://www.eatthedamncake.com/?p=5732#comment-71448 I just don’t know… I am currently skinny apparently and people say I’m too thin… but then there are girls who are smaller than me and no one comments on them. I am definitely not big boned but I don’t understand why no one comments on them (and I know they don’t) but openly comment on me. Girls who are smaller than me say “You’re getting a bit thin” and it makes me feel like I’ll never be their size without looking terrible.

If someone thinner than me says “You’re getting a bit too thin” I think well, I’m not as small as you but I am already too small?? Everyone accepts you at your size but when I get down to that size I look ‘sick’ ? “. It really confuses me as to what I look like…

]]> By: Pretty/Funny – Body Image, Sex & Validation | An Odd Geography http://www.eatthedamncake.com/2012/08/26/my-skinny-friend-and-the-women-who-judge-her/comment-page-1/#comment-70308 Pretty/Funny – Body Image, Sex & Validation | An Odd Geography Sun, 28 Oct 2012 12:11:41 +0000 http://www.eatthedamncake.com/?p=5732#comment-70308 [...] I can play the blame game. Furthermore, our bodies are our bodies, nobody else’s. Another blog posted recently discussed how it was “so easy to think that someone else’s body is a [...]

]]> By: Tuesday Treasure Trove | Dragonflight Dreams http://www.eatthedamncake.com/2012/08/26/my-skinny-friend-and-the-women-who-judge-her/comment-page-1/#comment-64318 Tuesday Treasure Trove | Dragonflight Dreams Tue, 11 Sep 2012 15:10:00 +0000 http://www.eatthedamncake.com/?p=5732#comment-64318 [...] My Skinny Friend and the Women Who Judge Her. I can relate to this. I used to be super skinny back in the day (not that I’m heavy now, but I have some healthy curves these days), and that fact was always being commented on. “Go eat some ham!” was a favorite from my family. [...]

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