W/a Smile, Tiana

That said, the whole point is, your appearance doesn’t make you you, and it doesn’t make your words any more or less true. Right is right.

That said, while you may have thought about your arm fat, because society does say that even thin women are never thin enough, have you ever had well-meaning family members take you aside for a chat about how large you’ve become? (Like you don’t know, don’t live it and breathe it every second!) Have you had to shop at special stores because even XL and XXL clothes would not fit? When you were a child, did your peers sing songs about your size and ask you, at age seven, if you are pregnant? You know insecurity, clearly, but do you know what it is like to really truly be terrified to have people see you eat cake, because your fatness, the thing they all judge you on, your moral decadence and inability to control yourself, is out there like a book for all to read? Have you ever gotten a candy bar at the supermarket or gone through the McDonald’s drive thru while alone, then hid the evidence under your seat because you are so ashamed? Multiple times per week, or even per day? What does a thin woman REALLY know about being scared to eat cake?

And all that said, you’re still doing great work here and I wouldn’t see it any other way. And the whole point is to never never never judge based on size, right?

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